Author: Better Life Admin

  • Join us for Better Together 2026

    WHAT

    Better Together

    Celebrating stories of transformation through faith community reintegration.

    11:00 am doors open

    11:15-12:15 am lunch

    12:15-2:00 Stories of Reintegration

    WHERE

    Greek Islands Restaurant

    3-2686 Langdon St., Abbotsford

    WHEN

    October 3, 2026

    11 am to 2 pm

    RSVP

    by Oct. 1, 2026 to adam.betterlife@gmail.com

  • Crime, Community Reintegration, Trauma & Neuroscience

    Person walking on a suspension bridge toward a forest with Better Life Integration and Support superimposed on it.

    As the Better Life Team enters fall, the volume of Offenders’ requests for faith community reintegration support remains very similar to when Better Life Integration & Support held the Correctional Service Canada (CSC) Faith Community Reintegration (FCRP) contract.

    What that means is that Better Life continues to hold a trusted place with both Offenders seeking trusted community reintegration support, and just as significantly, with the large network of community reintegration partners, including CSC parole offices and interventions staff within the Correctional Institutions.

    However, this only tells part of the story—one reinforced for me weekly, as Better Life’s acting executive director—while the (invaluable) rest of the story is that the larger Better Life Team is made up of individuals whose faith is so significant and tangible to them that they continue to sacrificially invest their lives in supporting Offenders.

    Behind this position of trust we’ve earned in faith community reintegration support circles are the individuals who spend hours each week, both within the Correctional Institutions and out in the community, listening, praying, and supporting through building clear faith community bridges activated as soon as a Offender enters parole. This work continues to change the trajectory of dozens of parolee’s lives. Not only is there the radical reduction in recidivism through community reintegration, but parolees—sometimes for the first time in their lives—become productive and contributing members to their communities.

    This spring, upon the passing of one of our senior members, I was reminded of our volunteers’ invaluable contributions. Bob spent his career with Child and Family services, both as a social worker and in management. Upon retirement, he continued on from his career supporting the less fortunate to investing in men deemed by many as not having a hope of recovery or contribution. 

    Over my years with Better Life, I’ve had many conversations with Bob as he passionately—and sometimes, emotionally—spoke of the deep needs of “his” men and the support that they required to live new and better lives. I am constantly inspired at how our Better Life team members exemplify their faith in Jesus by sacrificially investing in ‘the least of these.’

    The focus of Better Life, in the absence of an active CSC FCRP contract, continues to be investing in the men and women of the CSC Pacific Region as they approach parole and helping provide the best support possible through their local community of faith for a healthy parole experience.

    In seeking to ensure a long and healthy future for Better Life Integration & Support, we have been deeply invested in writing applications and proposals to various foundations for supportive grants to help resource our work (one grant application actually took over 200 hours!), though we have not yet found a replacement funding source.

    We also continue to be involved with the Chaplaincy Wellness Program (CwP). This program addresses the impact of trauma and is currently offered quarterly at Mission Correctional Institution. We are conducting meetings with Kent Correctional Institution (maximum security) to begin offering the program there. I’ve been honoured to be invited by Better Life board member and psychotherapist Dr. Grace Lian-Bodenbach to provide a session during our next program cycle on The Brain and Trauma, exploring how each of us can understand and answer the questions: why do I think what I think, feel what I feel, and do what I do? Ultimately, who is the boss of me?

    Neurology gives us invaluable insights into how we are impacted by trauma, including “neuroplasticity” and the potential for each of us to create “new pathways” that allow us to think new thoughts, feel new feelings, and engage in different actions than the ones that we pursued in the past. A recording of my previous CwP Brain and Trauma session is on the Better Life website, if you’d like to listen to it, and I will be posting a revised session in the near future.

    Thank you for your support of Better Life. We ask for your prayers as continue to pursue long term funding to ensure the invaluable ministry of Better Life reaches far into the future.

    Gratefully, 

    Adam Wiggins

    Executive Director

    Better Life Integration & Support

  • The Brain, Trauma & Limiting Beliefs

    This presentation was first delivered at a Correctional Service Canada Offender Wellness Program.

    The content reflects Better Life Integration & Support’s discovery that addressing trauma (PTSD, large “T” Trauma) is an important element for Offenders to enter into a healthy community reintegration pathway and experience a new and better life.

    One of the constant responses I get, when I say I work in Federal Offender Community Reintegration, is the belief that offenders can not be rehabilitated.

    In complete alignment with the evidence-based research that continues to emerge, my personal experience with Better Life Integration & Support has been that this is a destructive myth. A myth inflamed by media headlines that amplify the horrors of recidivism (reoffending) and embed this belief in a single possible (inevitably negative!) outcome across Canadian society.

    In many cases, the issue isn’t that offenders can’t be rehabilitated. Rather, it’s that there has not been an intentional reintegration pathway back into the community for them.

    In other words, offenders often serve their time and are released into the community (usually into a halfway house and under the supervision of a parole officer), but without a community to welcome them, engage them in pro-social activity, and to continue to address the challenges that often led to their offence in the first place.

    This is where Better Life has had the opportunity to make a real difference in outcomes—connecting offenders to the life-changing difference church communities can have in supporting these women and men to experience a new and better life. Throughout the Pacific Region (BC and the Yukon), church communities that welcome and support parolees with intentional, faith based, reintegration practices are radically impacting the lives of parolees.

    While the reasons for criminal activity and recidivism are many, we recognize the widespread and deep impact of trauma on the human brain, and Better Life is stepping up our support in this area through a wellness program led by Chaplain Daniel Friesen and Psychotherapist Dr. Grace Lian. I also recorded this video and have presented at some of the most recent workshops.

    While research in this specific area continues to emerge, many women and men in Correctional Institutions suffered from significant trauma and PTSD (post-traumatic syndrome disorder). Again, while there are many reasons underlying why an individual commits a crime, the ‘early story’ of an offender is often horrific, including for some who were raised in communities of faith.

    In brief, what Better Life is discovering is that, as we address an individual’s trauma through trauma-informed psychotherapy—specifically, EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing)—we begin to give men and women an opportunity to live life free from being highjacked by the extreme and often overwhelming events and emotions of the past.

    This is just one “tool” among many needed for healing and successful reintegration, and we’re excited about adding it as an additional support for offenders in their journey. (With reference to our previously referenced reintegration pathway model, we currently offer this inside institutions prior to parole at the “on-ramp” stage.)

    Of course, trauma, to various degrees, is something that impacts all of us. If you’d like to understand the impact of trauma on the brain, why we think what we think, feel what we feel, and do what we do, please watch this video presentation of the material that we recently presented to the men at Mission Medium Correctional Institution.

    As always, we’re deeply grateful for your support. It is your financial and prayerful investment in Better Life that allows us to continue to have a life-changing and eternity-altering impact on the lives of many women and men.

  • Stories of Reintegration: Todd Cawley’s Story

    Although the story of intentional community reintegration for parolees includes a remarkable drop in recidivism (re-offending), it supports so much more than that.

    For much of Todd Cawley’s life, he lived in cycles of addiction, crime and incarceration. However, today the trajectory of Todd’s life has been radically impacted by his faith, healthy relationships and practices, and giving back to the community as he invests in those whose lives have also been decimated by addiction and the pattern of crime that often follows.

    Enjoy Todd’s story as he talks about not only walking free of crime and addiction, but reveals a life where he is once again a contributing member of our Canadian society:

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  • Better Life: Setting the prisoner free

    As many of you know, Better Life has held the Correctional Service Canada (CSC) Faith Community Reintegration Contract (FCRP) for a number of years. Much to Better Life’s surprise, a Florida-based corporation undercut the financial bid of the most recent contract (without providing support in all the designated regions…), and consequently gained a number of the FCRP contracts across Canada, including ours.

    While this came a quite a shock—particularly since Better Life has been recognized by CSC as a national leader in faith community reintegration best practices—after many conversations and much prayer, the Better Life team believes our future is as bright as ever.

    We recognize this as a moment to reaffirm our identity and sense of mission as an organization.

    From the very beginning, Better Life was shaped by what Christians call the gospel. The belief that our identity and very nature can be radically transformed by a Creator God who loves us so deeply He sacrificed Himself on our behalf. As the Gospel of John says so eloquently, “For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)

    As Better Life, we believe that the gospel compels us to look at every human as being created in the image of God, and therefore, having dignity and worth—no matter who they are, no matter what they’ve done.

    I truly count it a privilege and an honour as Better Life’s executive director to have a front row seat to witness the actions of men and women who love and follow Jesus as they invest themselves in serving the ‘least of these.’

    silhouetted people walking across a suspension bridge against a forest backdrop

    Moving forward, while Better Life no longer holds the CSC FCRP, our team are able to continue to provide faith community reintegration support by meeting with men and women within the Correctional Institutions and assisting them into church communities that provide life-changing and eternity-altering support.

    We plan to continue to work closely with our wonderful network of church communities, Correctional Institution Chaplains, Institutional and Community Parole Officers, Halfway Homes, Substance Use Treatment Centres, and our friends through the community reintegration network.

    That said, up to this point, Better Life’s funding was largely through the CSC contract, which is no longer the case. While we have reduced our organizational costs as quickly and substantially as we can, the fact is there are still many financial commitments that Better Life needs to continue in order to to facilitate healthy reintegration support.

    For instance, some ongoing needs are our toll free number, that allows offenders and parolees to connect with their Better Life chaplain, our online presence that allows us to communicate the stories of transformation provided through church communities, and a reduced level of staffing retained to support the many actions that are need to connect men and women as they gain parole with a church community, and all the other services that are an essential part of a healthy reintegration experience.

    In the midst of so many good and worthy requests for your financial support, you may ask, “why should I give to Better Life?”

    Why?

    • Because this often overlooked ministry is a clear expression of Jesus’s ministry and mission. Jesus was clear that a commitment and investment in ‘the least of these’ (including those imprisoned—Matthew 25:39) is a clear expression of a genuine follower of Jesus (No, we don’t invest in the least of these to somehow earn God’s favour. But, as authentic followers of Jesus, our lives are invested in those who Jesus is committed to.)
    • Because supporting parolees through a church community of people who love and follow Jesus is both life-changing and eternity-altering. What Better Life has experienced over and over again is the transforming power of God through His people and church to give parolees a hope and a future.
    • Because supporting Parolees through church communities radically impacts our society for good. A former Correctional Service Canada (CSC) Regional Chaplain noted that recidivism (reoffending) drops by over 80% when parolees are reintegrated back into society through their church community.

    Can you imagine the impact that has on our society as a whole?! We constantly read headlines about our broken prison system, the terrible consequences of untreated substance use and mental health, not to mention horrible examples of reoffending.

    But what church community reintegration shows us is that when a man or woman with a criminal past is welcomed, supported, discipled, counselled, provided opportunities for employment and education, transformation is possible, and that individual can again become a contributing member of our Canadian society.

    In our next Better Life post, I want to share one of the amazing stories of transformation with you. But for now, for the reasons listed above, would you consider an investment into the ministry of Better Life as together we join Jesus in His mission of ‘setting the prisoner free.’

    With thanks, on behalf of Better Life,

    Adam Wiggins

    Executive Director

  • Stories of Reintegration: T.M.’s Story

    TM tells of spiralling out of control, incarceration, a key turning point, & her path toward reintegration. A powerful story of a life transformed—in her own words:

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  • Healthy Reintegration Part 3: Support & Partnerships

    As Better Life has worked together with faith communities across the Pacific Region, we hear many different responses to the invitation to provide reintegration support.

    Some faith communities and their members feel that providing reintegration support is an important expression of their faith. They’re all in, and they want to provide support as effectively as possible.

    Others respond with desire to get involved, but feel overwhelmed by questions.

    Our hope at Better Life is that having clarity around a REINTEGRATION STRUCTURE AND SYSTEM answers many of your questions and gives you confidence that you can help develop a healthy reintegration pathway that can literally be life changing for a parolee and an invaluable contribution toward them experiencing a better life.

    However, we recognize that Structures and Systems only take us so far.

    We experience this in our own life. At times we have great aspirations, sometimes expressed in New Year’s resolution. But living out our resolutions can be another thing entirely.

    This leads us to acknowledge that we’re all individuals who are made up of many different influences—our families, our experiences, and our habits, to name a few.

    What type of influence has each of these areas had on our life?

    As human beings, we each respond to varied circumstances in different ways. Specifically, we experience and are impacted by trauma in very different ways.

    In your own family, your experience growing up may have impacted you in a radically different way than a sibling. You could have experienced very similar circumstances, but how you experienced those circumstances and integrated them may have been very different for each of you.

    The same is true for a parolee.

    You’ve listened to their story, you’ve created a pathway together that you hope will lead to a healthy reintegration experience, but so much of an individual’s experience, their growth, their ability to overcome painful experiences and trauma, and to believe that they can live a different and better life, rests with them.

    With this understanding, we want to assure you that not only is Better Life made up of an experienced team of Reintegration Chaplains, but that we are a part of an invaluable network of organizations and caregivers committed to healthy reintegration.

    The Better Life Reintegration Chaplain who, in many cases, has provided an inmate support for a year within the prison, who has worked with the inmate’s Correctional Team and has supported them to complete the recommended steps so that they can have a positive parole hearing outcome, is now available to support you as you support that parolee.

    While the Better Life reintegration chaplain doesn’t remove their support from the inmate as they enter parole, they shift their primary support to you as a caregiver.

    When you have questions, when you wonder what healthy next steps should be, when you’re concerned about certain patterns of thinking, or behaviour, and wonder what to do next, the Better Life Reintegration chaplain is available to provide you with support.

    This is also true of the connections Better Life can provide you with various reintegration partners—often beginning with the parolee’s Parole Officer. Through the Parole Officer you can gain a clear understanding of what the parolee’s conditions are, as well as specific areas that may need attention (work, education, therapy, certain thought patterns, etc.)

    Beyond a connection with a parolee’s Parole Officer, Better Life has close relationships with many Reintegration Partners operating in various regions and areas of specialization.

    At Better Life we are here to support you. We believe that you can make a life changing difference in providing reintegration support, and we want to support you to do that effectively.

    Thank you for joining us for this series on providing healthy reintegration. We’re grateful to be on this journey with you.

    With thanks,

    Adam Wiggins

    Executive Director

  • Healthy Reintegration Part 2: System

    In the current Better Life Integration and Support series, we’re looking at the ingredients of healthy reintegration.

    In the previous edition, we addressed the importance of mentors and volunteers understanding the Reintegration Structure.

    We picture this Structure as a bridge that begins in the Correctional Institution and extends into the community. We envision the four essential components of the bridge as the support, the onramp, the main body of the bridge, and the offramp or exit. Each one of these stages requires specific types of support.

    Rustic bridge across a cascade in a wooded canyon.

    In this edition, we will look at SYSTEM. In other words, what works within the STRUCTURE of Reintegration to make the process function effectively?

    Specifically, what can a mentor, volunteer, and community of faith provide to help a parolee have a healthy reintegration experience and move towards becoming a contributing member of their society?

    At Better Life, we believe that a clear and healthy pathway can be created to support the the best possible outcomes for an individual’s reintegration.

    We’d like to suggest a System that develops through three invaluable questions.

    Let me underline that these questions are ones you can ask in conversation together with the parolee during the first month of parole.

    In other words, everything that you and the parolee experience together is a product of developing a trusting relationship, which the reintegration pathway is built on.

    So let me encourage you—don’t feel like you have to rush. Let the relationship develop, and out of the relationship, ask these three questions that allow a pathway to be created.

    The questions are:

    1. Where have you Been?
    2. Where are you Going?
    3. How will you Get There?
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    1. WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN?

    This is such an invaluable question. It’s obvious that a parolee has been places that have had a serious impact on their life.

    It’s a question that addresses their crime, and in relationship to their crime, the conditions that they now have for their parole.

    It’s also a question that address an individual’s challenges in life. For instance, a therapist once asked a group of men in a high security prison how many of them dreamed as little boys that they would be in the place where they are now? Of course, not one of them raised their hand. No one dreams of being incarcerated as a young boy, or young girl.

    What we know is that a parolee has had certain experiences and responded to those experiences in a way that wasn’t healthy, wasn’t contributing to society.

    On one hand, we don’t enter the work of providing reintegration support as a therapist, a psychologist, or psychiatrist. It’s not our role to provide professional therapy. But knowing a person’s story not only makes a caregiver aware of the comprehensive help that a parolee needs, but also recognizes the importance and supports the fundamental and life-giving experience of being known.

    To emphasize this point, a parolee may not believe this is true. They may experience shame, or guilt and may have had their desire for secrecy reinforced over and over again within the context of a prison. Sharing their past may not come easily. However, we understand that hiddenness and secrecy do not bring about healing and growth into our life.

    Our starting point on the road to a healthy reintegration is a person’s story.

    Listening to their story (not judging or questioning, but listening), communicates the value you place on them and the care you desire to give them. The details of an individual’s story may come out over time, but as trust is built, this will be the outcome.

    Before we move onto the second question, let me circle back to the connection between a parolee’s story and their conditions of parole. This is important because the most often asked questions by faith communities are, “Will we be safe? Will our community be safe? Will our children be safe?”

    In response, there are a number of conditions that a parolee must follow. Some conditions are general and will apply to all parolees, and some are very specific, depending on the parolee’s crimes.

    For instance, an individual who has had a sexually related offence, or an offence against a minor, will have very clear conditions restricting them from settings where there are minors present.

    So, in summary, through a parolee’s story, we also learn of their parole conditions and supervision and can understand how best to provide safety for our faith community and for the offender. (Parole conditions also will be proactively shared with the faith community representative supporting reintegration.)

    Through listening to the parolee’s story and offering support we begin the journey of providing a trusted relationship foundation that healthy reintegration is build upon.

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    2. WHERE ARE YOU GOING?

    The importance of this question may not be so obvious.

    But a Better Life board member, a criminal law lawyer, puts the question into perspective like this:

    What would it be like for you to be judged every day of your life for the worst day or moment of your life?

    It’s hard to even envision, isn’t it?

    What the question illustrates are the challenges that a criminal history and incarceration bring.

    For instance, one ‘lifer’ who went on to experience faith and become a prison chaplain himself, tells of his experience on the day that he was released for parole. The prison guard looked at him and said, “See you back soon!”

    Often this is the sentiment communicated. It’s informed by the way many inmates become institutionalized, and can sometimes begin to feel it’s easier to stay incarcerated than to face the many challenges reintegrating back into the community will bring.

    As we ask a parolee the question “Where are you going?”, we are inviting the parolee into the experience of envisioning their life in a new way.

    A way that is often impacted by the hope of their faith, and how their faith practices can allow them to see both themselves, and life around them in a new way. In many respects, this is one of the most important areas of support a caregiver can provide.

    While the diversity of faith beliefs envision hope, love, forgiveness, grace differently, I was impacted through my conversation with an Imam who asked, “Adam, how can we hold an individual’s past and crime over them for the rest of their life, when God tells us that he forgives those who earnestly repent? If God can forgive, why don’t we?”

    Again, there are distinctions between the many different faiths, but the Imam’s question was an important one to answer and have clarity on for any caregiver who is providing reintegration support.

    We could ask, and answer, what elements of my faith can enable the parolee I’m working with to both envision and experience a life of forgiveness and contribution within our faith tradition?

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    3. HOW WILL YOU GET THERE?


    In many respects the answer to this question will be informed by the parolee’s answer to question number one, Where Have You Been?

    Through listening to the parolee’s story certain elements, specific needs, come to light.

    It may be, on one hand, that the parolee is very mature in their faith. In fact, they may be at a place in their faith that they can provide support and help for others. We have seen numerous parolees use their incarceration as a ‘wake up call,’ where they either come to faith, or become serious/committed in their faith.

    There are also Prison Chaplains who do an amazing job of helping inmates grow in their faith so that they are actually more mature in their faith practices when they reach parole than many in their faith community. In other words, we shouldn’t assume that all parolees are in need of others to teach and train them.

    On the other hand, most, if not all faiths, recognize that we ‘never arrive.’ There is always a deeper experience of our faith that we can enter into.

    Again, this is why the first question, ‘Where have you Been’ is so important. Through your conversation with a parolee, you will recognize the level of experience they have had in their faith practices and engagement, and whether or not they are in need of professional therapy, or education, or housing, etc. Their story, their needs, their path forward will be distinct and unique to them.

    Better Life’s recommendation is that through the first month, or even first quarter of relationship building, you create and make an agreement of what the next period of time together will look like.

    For instance, you may agree to a six month period of studying or practicing an element of your faith together.

    The agreement may also include intentional conversations about other critical areas. Perhaps, the parolee is also undergoing addiction treatment, or mental healthy therapy, for instance. A part of your regular time together may be to incorporate space to talk about how they are feeling as they address their challenges of addiction.

    You’re not engaging with the parolee as a therapist, but you are giving opportunity for them to talk about their experience.

    What we call a Commitment of Trust Agreement can be invaluable because it specifies healthy relationship boundaries, the expected frequency of meeting, the duration of support (e.g., We will meet for six months and then we will evaluate), and even what you will focus on in your time together.

    As an example, the invaluable organization (CoSA – Circles of Support and Accountability) uses a very similar agreement that is phenomenally effective in reducing recidivism (reoffending) with parolees who have a sexual offence history.

    What Better Life has discovered is that the benefit of a parolee engaging in the practices of their faith community—prayers, services, etc.—are enormous. Many faith communities are welcoming and supportive to parolees attending their community.

    However, what often provides the highest impact is the individual’s experience of relationship. This may be in the context of a member of the faith community regularly meeting with the parolee for coffee and conversation. It may be inviting the parolee into a small group that engages in providing support together, or having the parolee experience an existing small group as a means of experiencing healthy relationship.

    Let me encourage you, use these three questions like tools in your tool box to help you provide support that leads to a parolee’s healthy reintegration.

    person carrying tools with text overlay reading where have you been, where are you going, how will you get there?

    With thanks,

    Adam Wiggins

    Executive Director

  • Healthy Reintegration Part 1: Structure

    2023 has been a year of growth and development for Better Life Integration and Support as we continue to refine our process for providing a healthy reintegration experience for offenders and parolees who ask for faith community reintegration.

    While Better Life recognizes that each individual is unique (has a distinct story and experience), we also understand that healthy reintegration requires specific structure, system, and support.

    In fact, this past summer (2023), we developed a new set of Faith Community Reintegration videos for individuals and faith communities providing reintegration support to access online. These short videos are built around:

    1. Reintegration Structure
    2. Reintegration System
    3. Reintegration Support

    To access this free online training resource, please email adam.betterlife@gmail.com for the link and password.

    Over the next three blogs/newsletters, we’ll also look in more detail at the three components of healthy reintegration, as outlined above.

    We begin with having a clear understanding of Reintegration Structure.

    We picture Reintegration Structure as a Bridge. In fact, you’ll often hear us refer to the “Reintegration Bridge.”

    The Reintegration Bridge is composed of four parts:

    1. The Support holds the weight and stress of the bridge
    2. The Onramp is where the bridge is entered
    3. The main Body of the bridge
    4. The Offramp is the exit from the bridge

    1. The SUPPORT


    We all recognize how essential support is for a (structural) bridge. Comprehensive support is just as essential for Reintegration, and not just in the sense of providing support to the parolee, but also in giving a mentor or volunteer the capacity and strength to provide reintegration support.

    On one hand, providing reintegration support isn’t for the faint of heart. Every experience of providing support is unique, ranging from parolees that need intensive support, to those who require little support, but the experience can often be intense.

    At the same time, there is such an opportunity for mentors and volunteers of faith to experience life transformation, both in themselves and in the individual they are supporting.

    As you consider providing reintegration support, you can ask yourself the following questions:

    • How would you rate yourself in terms of your personal health, your emotional health, your relational health, your self-awareness?
    • How clear is your practice of personal boundaries? (If you’re unclear about the idea of boundaries, Drs. Cloud and Townsend wrote an excellent book on boundaries.)
    • Where do you get your support from?
    • How do your faith and faith practices provide you with clarity and strength when you are investing in others?

    Of course these aren’t questions solely for providing reintegration support, but healthy life principles for each of us.

    As you invest yourself in providing reintegration support, you need to be clear on where you gain your support to enable you to support another. As you enter into providing reintegration support, have a plan of what you are proactively doing so that you are and remain healthy.

    Identify the people you can go to if you are feeling challenged, or discouraged, or in need of direction. It may be a group of close friends, a spiritual leader, or mentor from your faith community. We encourage you to identify those people in your life that can support you and pray for you as you begin this journey.

    Without question, the experience of providing a parolee with reintegration support can be one of the greatest opportunities for you to grow in your own spiritual life.

    2. The ONRAMP

    The Onramp is well defined for Better Life. It illustrates what is normally a period of up to 12 months where support is offered to an offender in the Correctional Institution.

    An inmate contacts Better Life, either through a prison chaplain, through their Institutional Parole Officer, or personally through the Better Life toll free number.

    A Better Life staff member dedicated to that inmate’s specific prison meets with them and undertakes an intake interview.

    During the interview there are specific questions that we ask, but in general, we are seeking to understand an inmate’s motivation and the degree of interest they have in seeking reintegration support from a faith community.

    One of Better Life’s non-negotiables is the willingness of an inmate to provide full disclosure.

    We take a faith community’s trust very seriously, and therefore, view an inmate’s willingness to provide full disclosure an essential for their healthy reintegration experience and for the potential of their relationship with the faith community, mentors and volunteers.

    What’s significant for mentors and volunteers to understand is during that 12 month period, a Better Life staff member is working closely with the inmate to develop a relationship of trust with them, to understand their correctional management plan and team, and to begin building a connection with a potential faith community for when they achieve a positive parole hearing outcome.

    The relationship of trust between the inmate and the Better Life staff member is invaluable for the faith community to understand the needs of the inmate and the faith community’s potential to support them.

    3. The BODY of the Bridge

    Best practice in healthy reintegration is, as an inmate enters into parole, they are quickly connected with their supportive faith community. This connection may have already been established while the inmate was within the Correctional Institution.

    Better Life’s practice is that the week an individual enters parole, if not the day of, the parolee is introduced to a representative of their respective faith community.

    At times, the individual’s community parole officer may request to be included in this meeting.

    During the initial meeting the parolee will share their story. A Parolee’s willingness to share their story helps to ensure their safety and the safety of the faith community as well, and begins to create a healthy reintegration pathway.

    The initial meeting is also an opportunity for the faith community representative to talk about the ways a parolee can access the community and experience their support.

    While each of the four stages of the Reintegration Bridge are important, the contribution of Stage Three is invaluable. It is in and through the faith community that a parolee experiences:

    • The opportunity to experience trusted relationship(s)
    • Engagement in empowering faith practices
    • Support for the tangible needs that a parolee may have, including:
      • Employment
      • Housing
      • Education
      • Therapy, which may address areas of Trauma, Addiction and Mental Health

    4. The OFFRAMP

    The goal of reintegration is a healthy reintegration experience, with the ultimate outcome that a parolee becomes a contributing member of society.

    However, it’s important to recognize that healthy reintegration isn’t always linear.

    In other words, reintegration support doesn’t guarantee that the parolee will never again experience challenges with addiction, or mental health, certain temptations or unhealthy behaviours.

    A Parolee’s experiences along the reintegration pathway are always informing those that provide support with a clearer picture of what is going to help the parolee move forward in their reintegration.

    For instance, an offender enters parole and is provided with reintegration support by loving, wise caregivers. But the offender cannot overcome the temptations of their addiction, and by giving into their addiction, has parole revoked because they breached their conditions.

    It may be easy to believe that the caregivers failed to provide healthy reintegration support. However, instead of a sense of failure, such experiences are invaluable in helping provide a more holistic, comprehensive pathway for the parolee.

    The parolee’s challenges with addiction, or any challenges for that matter, alert us to the specifics of what the individual needs to move forward.

    For example:

    • For an individual that struggles with challenges with alcohol or drug addiction, the new plan will include the individual going into addiction treatment.
    • For those who are challenged by sexual addiction, the new plan will include becoming a member of a CoSA group that specifically provides structure and accountability for sexual addiction.
    • For those who are overwhelmed by trauma, or are challenged by other issues of mental health/illness, the new plan will include being under the care of a therapist, or a psychiatrist, if medication is required for treatment.

    The point is, we use the awareness that comes from the parolee’s experience to inform what a healthy reintegration pathway will look like for the individual.

    In conclusion, the support and development of trusted relationships that come from members of a parolee’s faith community are invaluable for their healthy reintegration.

    While a parolee’s reintegration may not always be linear, the development of trusted relationships with faith community caregivers can be life changing.

    In the next Better Life Newsletter we will look at the importance of having a clear REINTEGRATION SYSTEM.


    With thanks,

    Adam Wiggins

    Executive Director

  • Healing Childhood Trauma Resource

    At Better Life Integration & Support, we are committed to providing resources and support so that individuals who have experienced incarceration can have a healthy reintegration back into the community.

    As we continue in our series on the impact of trauma, we recognize, by virtue of being human beings, we have all experienced varying degrees of trauma.

    We also understand that the men and women we love and support through their community reintegration have often both inflicted trauma through their crime, but also been radically impacted by trauma, generally through difficult childhood experiences, as well as during their incarceration.

    This month, Better Life highlights the invaluable Smart Family Podcast episode “SFP 083 How Developmental Trauma Shows Up in Your Family Relationships with Dr. Kathleen Murphy; Using Polyvagal Theory to Understand the Impacts of Childhood Trauma in Adulthood; How to Promote Healing.”

    SFP 083 How Developmental Trauma Shows Up in Your Family Relationships with Dr. Kathleen Murphy; Using Polyvagal Theory to Understand the Impacts of Childhood Trauma in Adulthood; How to Promote Healing Smart Family Podcast

    Ever wondered about why it's sometimes hard to sync up your intentions for your relationships, and the ways you actually show up? Childhood trauma isn't necessarily what you think it is – we tend to think of the death of a parent or being involved in a life-threatening incident or being sexually abused when we talk about the lasting impacts of trauma (and rightfully so), but sometimes the sources of trauma are not obviously recognized. Trauma expert Dr. Kathleen Murphy joins us for an in-depth exploration of the ways developmental or complex trauma experienced before adulthood may manifest in words and behaviours in our couple relationships and parenting. If you've been treated abusively in your past, you may want to invite a friend to listen along with you and be there, for support. What Dr. Murphy shares is so honest, insightful and powerful, you won't want to miss this conversation, whether it applies to you personally or someone close to you.